Why your Date is Sending Mixed Signals

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That person you had been seeing seems interested in you. Everything has been going really well. The conversations are great, the chemistry is visible, and you make each other laugh. Both of you just simply have a good time. Your interest grows each time you see your date and you feel like it’s about time that some commitments can be made. But occasionally…you feel like your special someone is pulling back. They don’t respond to texts as fast as you; they just seem to want to keep things in the same place and that makes you want to question things.

Are they sending you mixed signals?? Here are some reasons why mixed signals happen to help you decipher what they truly mean, why they are sending these signals to you, and why they are serious about pursuing a relationship with you?

Reason #1: Your date is not interested in you but does not want to hurt your feelings

Even though relationships are a complicated process and people need time to decide whether they are interested in pursuing a serious relationship or not, there are certain times that the dating process has been dragged on for a longer period of time than it has to be. One possibility for this is that even though your date is not interested in a committed relationship with you, they are scared that they will hurt your feelings and that they will feel guilt for rejecting you.

Reason #2: Your date likes you but doesn’t want to fall in love with you

Your date is not ready for a committed relationship. They are scared to be too close to you because they don’t want you to fall in love with them and don’t want themselves to fall in love with you. They are only looking for something casual at the moment and they don’t want to be too attached and make themselves vulnerable and get hurt. Perhaps they had an unsuccessful past relationship that they can’t seem to move forward from yet or they don’t feel confident in the idea of a relationship yet. However, the reason why someone does not want to commit does vary from person to person.

Reason #3: Your date likes the idea of a relationship but doesn’t want to be in a relationship

This is a confusing reason but your date might be doing everything right during your dates and already give you the illusion that you are already in a relationship. Still, your date doesn’t seem to have the intention to move one step further from it. They are buying you flowers and making you feel like a million bucks every time you meet up with your date but they avoided topics about wanting to be exclusive to you. Even though it seems like the times you have spent with your date have been great, if a relationship with a serious commitment is what you are looking for, you should stray away from dates that show mixed signals like this.

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