Tips for Dating in Your 30s

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Dear Reader,

You might think dating is more complicated and confusing in your 30s. There seems to be a less range of people you can choose from and you might feel like the dating options are limited. You might have been through a couple of relationships and they have not worked out as you have expected them to. Maybe it was the wrong person or simply the wrong time. Don’t fret. Dating is more fun than ever as long as you are willing to be yourself and adjust to the new dating style.

Here are some tips so you can date in your 30s to the fullest:

• Know What You Want:

After previous relationships, you have received a sense of what you want and don’t want in a partner. Though you might be more willing to date outside your default dating preferences in your teenage years, those experiences will help you as you enter your 30s. Dating in your 30s means more financial flexibility. You have put in the effort in your career and you begin to have more control over your dating life. You can make dating decisions on your own instead of over-relying on friends and family members.

• There’s No Rush:

You might have the feeling that you are running out of time because you have fewer single friends and you feel the pressure to get married soon. There are a lot of expectations for you to find someone who is the right fit for you as fast as possible. Dating almost becomes a necessity or a chore instead of something that sparks joy for you. That’s why it’s better to take your time than to settle for someone who you don’t fully trust and feel compatible with. Have fun with dating and get to know someone you are interested in with sincerity.

• Be Vulnerable:

It might be easier to be as open as you were before in dating, especially if you have experienced toxic or unsuccessful relationships that have made you lose hope in love. You might be reluctant to let someone into your heart because you are scared to be hurt again. However, it is difficult for someone to get to know your true self if you keep your guards up. Remember that everyone you meet deserves a fair chance to be known and understood. That way, both you and the person you are trying to know will become more vulnerable and honest.

• Be Flexible

As you date in your 30s, you will explore a wider range of people who have different backgrounds, lifestyles, ages, and prior relationship experiences. It could take a second for you to get used to how different the person you are seeing in comparison to you but make sure you don’t give up on someone because of that. You may meet individuals who have been involved in previous marriages, have a child of their own, or are a bit older or younger than who you are typically looking for. These, however, should not be deal breakers for you as long as they have the same values, maturity level, and life outlook as you.

• Be Yourself

You are charming as you are now. Never feel the need to change your core values for a new partner. Prioritize yourself first and find the balance between career and dating. You might be busy with other demands and feel the need to put dating on the side, and that’s ok. Always listen to what you need first. Someone who respects you will work with you to find the best way to grow your connection.

As the American fantasy author, Richelle Mead states, “I’m like fine wine. I improve with age. The best is yet to come,” so are you. Always remember that you are aging like fine wine.

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