Checking Love Compatibility

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Have you ever found yourself very interested in someone but have been hesitant to make it something serious? Have you felt like there is something missing in your previous relationships? Maybe it’s about bad timing, missed chances, or not having enough chance knowing about each other. However, another possibility might be about how compatible you are with the person you are seeing. Sometimes compatibility can be known right from the start if the date becomes awkward and unengaging while other times it can be confusing. Ourdate is here to provide some criteria to help you find if who you are and what you want aligns with the person you are interested in.

Compatibility Intimacy: RISE

According to Doctor Spirit’s interview during the Mel Robbins show, Dr. Spirit addresses five categories of attraction:

• Recreational Intimacy

  • If you are someone who enjoys staying at home reading a good book while drinking a cup of Earl Gray tea, someone who prefers skydiving or surfing a lot more than staying home might not be your cup of tea. The different preference of preferred activities can signify a potential recreational intimacy mismatch.

• Intellectual Intimacy

  • Would you rather have a serious conversation with your partner about current events, sports, and geography or less intense conversations about daily life? Your preference for the style of intellectual intimacy matters because it determines whether time with your partner will be enjoyable in the long run.

• Spiritual Intimacy

  • Do you and your partner align with your concept of the world? Do you agree upon the creator of the world and how humanity came to be? Do you have the same values as global citizens? Certain discrepancies for these ideas can lead to potential future conflicts that could be hard to resolve in a long term relationship.

• Emotional Intimacy

  • How are you feeling when you are around your partner? Feeling safe, warm, and vulnerable is a healthy sign that emotional intimacy is established. If you feel the opposite, maybe you need more time to establish a more solid emotional connection with your partner.

• Physical Intimacy

  • What are the ways you communicate with your partner physically? Do you like exploring ways to connect with your partner or are you more conservative? This can determine how well you and your partner are bonding with each other in terms of physical intimacy.

These different types of intimacies determine if two individuals will be compatible with each other. Intimacy is all about how well someone knows and understands you and if they can accept and respect who you are at your core.

Communication Style

According to Next Level Life, there are a lot of communication styles out there, but in summary, there are 4 styles of communications that can be seen in our daily life:

• Analytical Communicators

  • These communicators like to think in numbers and like to question the information they are given. They are data-driven and like to think clearly. They tend to use less emotional languages in comparison to other communicators.

• Personal Communicators

  • Here are the good listeners who are in tune with the feelings of who they are communicating to. They prefer emotional languages and pay attention to body languages since they are relationship focused.

• Intuitive Communicators

  • Communicators who fit into this group like to cut right to the chase. They will try to find ways to figure out a solution to a problem as soon as they can. They like to get things done and rarely procrastinate. They do not like to waste time and like to be efficient with the information they receive.

• Functional Communicators

  • These groups of communicators like to explain things in detail and don’t mind if it’s taking a long time. They would like to receive as much information as possible so that they can feel in control of the situation and what they can do to solve a problem.

Figuring which type of communication you prefer and which type you prefer in your partner can increase the compatibility you have with your partner in terms of daily and more serious conversations.

Feminine and Masculine Energy

We’ve all heard of the saying that opposites attract. And this is especially true in the case with opposite energies. Individuals with more feminine energy tend to think more from the right brain and focus on how they feel. On the other hand, individuals with more masculine energy tend to think from the left brain and focus on how they think. In a romantic connection, there tends to be an individual who leans a little more towards specific energy so each other’s needs are properly fulfilled. Someone with masculine energy thinks more linearly while individuals with more feminine energy are more in tune with feelings. Having a balance of both energies in a relationship can signify a good fit for a relationship.

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