Tips for a Long-distance Relationship

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No matter where you have met your special someone, online or in-person, there could be a time that your relationship will be tested by the physical distance between both you and your partner. The distance might not have been previously planned or even considered when you met your significant other in the same city as you but they have to move to another city due to career changes. The distance might also have been present at the beginning when you and your special someone fell in love online despite the physical distance between us. Many of us are scared of long-distance connections because the physical distance between them can potentially further the heart distance between them as well.

Everything that seemed trivial can have the possibility of becoming something that is unforgettable and a starter of serious argument. Both you and your partner become a little more guarded about what’s safe to say or do and vice versa.

Long-distance relationships are, undeniably, complicated and difficult to manage. However, this doesn’t mean that they are impossible. The relationships that have stood the test of time and distance could become even stronger and more stable than before the distance ever began.

Let’s note some ways that could help you and your partner survive a challenging yet rewarding long-distance relationship.

Boundary

This suggestion may seem ironic and ambiguous when having more boundaries with your special someone is the last thing you would want if you are stuck in a long-distance relationship but it is truly magical in terms of keeping your relationship healthy and stable. For more tips and suggestions for having healthy boundaries with your partner, check out our blog about Balance and romance here.

Trust

Having trust in a relationship not only means trusting your partner but also means trusting in yourself that you will try your best to make this relationship work. Being in a relationship takes the effort of two people, and you are only fully in control of one, which is yourself. Doubts and suspicion can hurt a trusting relationship and make both yourself and your partner feel less secure. Trusting that your partner will be committed to a relationship as well as you and the quality of your relationship can not be defined by distance will be key to succeeding in a long-distance relationship.

Consistent Texting and Facetime

When the physical distance between you and your significant other is non-negotiable, tightening both your emotional and heart distance is your best bet. Texting and facetime can be overdone, but not enough communication can make you lose track of what’s going on in your partner’s life and make you feel less close to them overall. Keeping in touch with your special someone can be brief yet powerful by simply asking “How has your day been?” or “How are you doing?”. It’s necessary to plan out stable communication and make technology your best friend. Long-distance relationships will have extra work but it will all be worth it in the long run if you are serious about your person.

Online Activities

Just because of the physical space between you and your partner, doesn't mean that romance needs to be nonexistent. Online movie nights while both you and your partner sit comfortably on each other’s favorite couch can be a great way to re-spark security and comfort. Online Wordle night or cooking sessions can not only make an Online video call more fun but also can make it productive and fit well within even others’ utterly different schedules. Doing carefully planned date activities can help you feel closer with your partner and make both you and them feel loved.

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