How to Relax on Your First Date…or Your Second?

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Meeting someone new is daunting, especially when you have never met that person before in real life. After talking with your date and contemplating how the date will go on a dating app, you become nervous if the person you were talking to will be different in real life? You might overthink questions such as What if the conversation doesn’t go as smoothly as planned? What if I do something embarrassing? What if the other person is not as interested in the date as I am?

Here are some tips that might be helpful to reduce tension with the person you are seeing.

Being Present

It’s tempting to look far ahead into the future for a new connection. You are scared that the new person you are seeing is not the right person or right fit for you. And if you are wasting time seeing this specific individual rather than someone else. However, these thoughts can take you away from the joy of getting to know the person you are interested in. You might hold back and miss a chance to date someone extremely compatible with you. Instead of wondering about what’s right and what’s wrong and evaluating the person you are seeing with a critical lens. It could be helpful to let your guard down a little bit and let your partner get to know the quirky and unconventional side of you.

Flirting

For many beginners to dating, flirting is awkward and intimidating. It can be difficult to identify the fine line between flirting too much or too little. There are also worries that flirting too soon can make the person you are seeing feel uncomfortable. Though Flirting can be nerve-racking in the beginning, mastering flirting can be a craft. It can ignite passion and produce a much more enriched experience between perfect strangers or couples who have been dating for years. It boosts adrenaline and reduces unnecessary tension during a date.

Confidence

Confidence is the key way to spark interest between two strangers who have not fully known each other. Many people would shy away from having eye contact or initiating a conversation with someone who they have never met in a public place. Due to this cycle, many opportunities for two interested individuals to know more about each other are missing. When you are bold and confident about who you are and what you want. The other person becomes more interested in you because you seem like someone

Body Language

No matter if it’s a gentle tap on the shoulder or direct eye contact, body language can confirm your interest in the other person directly and make you feel more in tune with how you feel. Open body language such as uncrossed arms, smiling, and leaning forward can make dating have less tension and awkwardness. Avoiding body language discomfort such as tapping your foot, constantly glancing at the clock, or checking your phone can also make the date go smoother. Positive body language can let the person you are seeing know that you are not in a rush and are making an effort to know him or her genuinely.

Compliments

Compliments are beneficial for tightening the space between you and someone you have not been seeing for too long. It is a verbal affirmation that you are interested in the person you are seeing and make the other person feel relaxed spending time with you. Compliments don’t have to be cheesy. Though complimenting how beautiful and handsome your partner is sweet, complimenting interior qualities such as generosity, kindness, and easygoingness. can make the other person feel closer and more in tune with who you

Are You Ready for Your Next Date?

Are you still worrisome about your next date with that special someone you are seeing? Check out Ourdate and plan your next date with us! We can help adjust the dating atmosphere to both your and your partners’ tastes. No matter what your dating ideas are, we are here for you. From attire to the restaurant, we got you covered!

Did you find these tips to reduce tension with your date helpful? Feel free to leave a comment down below and suggest other suggestions that may reduce tension with someone you are meeting for the first time or only for a short while.

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