First Date Icebreakers

There you are, sitting on your sofa after a long-day’s work, when you hear that all-to familiar sound….ping! It's a text notification from your newest crush on your favorite dating app. After only thirty minutes, trading witty banter and clever innuendos, sparks seem to ignite from the heavens. Kapow! The universe may have just handed you that special someone you’ve been manifesting since the start of this dating journey – and now it’s time to take this opportunity from the computer screen to the real thing. Saturday night is just around the corner…and you can hardly wait for that first date! (Ourdate will design your first date experience to make the planning easy!)

As the date of your romantic rendezvous draws near, the butterflies in your stomach begin to take flight as if on-cue. Meanwhile, that lump in your throat is starting to feel less like a lump, and more like a swallowed frog. You think to yourself: “What am I going to say?” and “will they like me, or will I like them?”

Don’t worry, despite these rollercoaster emotions that are traveling through your body right now, your unnerved thoughts and anxieties are completely normal. Simply imagine these first-date jitters as ‘helpers’ to nudge you forward on that first interaction.

Now, it can be somewhat intimidating to find the right words to say once you are face-to-face with that new crush. We can easily be taken aback if any one of our five-senses stroll into ga-ga-land. Not-to-mention, the potential, awkward fall into the silent and ‘oh so awkward’ heavy pause with a hot date.

The funny thing is, when you both were chatting over text – you were confident, savvy, and funny; it felt easy! So, how do you bring this same you to the table on your first date without losing your cool?

We have shared some conversation ice-breakers to calm the nerves and get you in the flow on your first date. Let these tips be your flirting ammunition for the night. And be wise to use these tips tactfully – it’s important not to come off disingenuous or desperate. Just remember to be your authentic-self, since that’s what this date liked about you in the first place!

Conversation Icebreakers

#1 Fun And Interesting Question

Rule number one in dating: People love to talk about themselves. Anyone who has ever worked a sales job knows this to be true. Rule of thumb: listen and respond. If you find yourself feeling stuck in the conversation, pass the ball back to them. Ask interesting, open-ended questions like, “what movie character have you always felt was based on your real life?” Or, “what is your top 5 must-read book list?” These types of questions are bound to keep them talking for hours, and are key in increasing comfort with your new friend.

#2 This Or That

“This or that” topics are a great way to share some interesting, and often hilarious dialogue to learn more about your date. Try asking something like “skydiving or strolling through a park”, “travel to your favorite city or visit with your family” or “looks, personality or money….and you can only pick one!” Questions like these will keep the conversation both relaxed and fun!

#3 Get Personal

An icebreaker that is more personal must be used in a seamless way. I definitely don’t advise starting off with this, rather, deploy it once you’ve started to truly vibe with your date. When the opportune moment arises, ask a question that reveals something emotional like, “what’s your greatest fear in life?” For a moment, the masks will come off and you both may connect on a deeper level; that is, if they’re truly that special someone worth getting closer to.

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